Last Friday, J said to me, “Do you want to go on a date with me, Mummy? You can have anything you want on the page!”
What else could a girl possibly say but, “J, I would absolutely love to!”
For 2 years now, as a family we have been having “Dates” with our kids. Up until last week it had always been initiated by either Ben or I. But last week, it was little J who took the lead. And it did make me think a little bit. J has never been one for affection. He’s not big on hugs or kisses or cuddles. But lately he has been. I think the whole being in to school thing until 2pm has been a bigger deal than I even thought. When he comes home he’ll ask me what I’ve been doing all day, what did I have for lunch….I guess when you have been used to having lunch with someone basically every single day for 4 and a half years it’s a bit strange not to!!
So, I think he has been missing me. Don’t get me wrong he LOVES school, absolutely loves it. And I don’t think he would admit it himself, but deep down I think he has been missing his auld ma ;)
Ben and I LOVE going on dates with each of the kids. It is a special time and something which we really cherish. It allows time to chat and laugh with just them and really give them all our attention.
J really treated this one a bit like a real life date, and from the way that he behaved he sure does have a great role model. At drop off at school, he asked me, “What are you going to wear on our date Mummy? Maybe a dress?” Then as he turned to wave goodbye he shouted, “Oh mum, make sure my shirt is ironed will you” ?! Bless him, I didn’t know whether to laugh or cry.
That evening we both got ready, he put on his favourite shirt, got daddy to fix his hair. He gathered together some money and we were ready to go.
And I had THE. BEST. NIGHT.
Somewhere in this little guys future there is going to be one very lucky lady. He treated me like a true gentleman should. He reminded to pick anything that I wanted from the page. When the waiter showed us to our seats he said, “we’ll just have water for now and get something else later.” He kept the conversation flowing all through dinner, asking me was I ok, did I need to go to the toilet (?!) At the end he got out his money, “I’m just checking I have enough, daddy gave me 6 coins”. But the most loveliest part of all, when we got back to the car, he gave me a little kiss on the cheek and said, “thank you for a lovely date mummy, I really love you lots like jelly tots”.
So my darling little J, this little post is for you. I pray that in the future you will find a girl who will treat you right. Who won’t take advantage of your gentle heart. For you are a keeper J.B. a real treasure. And I love you loads like frogs and toads!!!