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My top 10 things to look forward to in the first 12 months of being a mum!

“Oh, (laughing) things are gonna change now!”

“Life will never be the same”

“Get all the sleep you can now, you’ll not get the chance in a few months”

“You’ve no idea what’s in front of you”

“That’s the end of the nights out and social life”

Just some of the things that are said to a mum when she announces she’s pregnant. When you move onto your second pregnancy you get hit with, “You thought it was busy with 1, just wait until this one arrives!” or “Now the fun really starts”. Why is it some people are so negative about the wonderful miracle that is the addition of a little one into a family? There are so, so many articles written and shared on the internet that give the ‘honest, warnings’ about how difficult being a mum is, how hard the first year can be, and yes, it IS hard, and yes your life does change, but you know what – IT.IS.OK. In fact, it’s more than ok, it is wonderful. And YOU.WILL.DO.IT. And while you’re doing it, you might even kind of enjoy it a little!

I try so, so hard to not say any of the clichés to friends when they tell me the wonderful news that they are going to have a little one. I am pretty sure that they know already it is going to be hard, they know already that there will be sleepless nights, they aren’t daft. I mean, I knew. I knew there would be days I wanted to cry, there would be times I would not have a clue what I was doing. But ya know what? I did it. I made. I got through that ‘first year’ and. dare I say it,  I loved it. Was it what I thought it was going to be? Sure it was, Were there times I wondered what is wrong with this child?!?!? How do I do that? Of course there were. But this little miracle was given to me as a gift from God and I took delight in him. They DO grow up so quickly. Those times when it is hard, really hard, will pass, yeah it feels like they won’t but they will and they do.

So, my ‘advice to new mums’ would be – get excited! It is wonderful that you are pregnant. What a blessing. What a gift. It is the best thing that will ever happen to you (after getting married!)  Enjoy every minute of pregnancy. Don’t worry too much about the labour – deal with that when it comes.

My top 10 things to look forward to in the first 12 months of pregnancy.

1. That moment when you hold you baby for the first time and get to say “Hi” face to face, looking into each others eyes, knowing that right then you have fallen even more in love than you ever thought possible.

2. When you get to bring your baby home – the car journey will probably be the slowest and most cautious one that you have ever been on, you will look round at the car seat every other minute just to make sure everything is ok. And you will probably be a little terrified too, in a good way, thinking HOW are we going to do this, are we really taking this child home to look after all by ourselves?? Wow. I don’t think we’re ready.

3. The first smile that your little one will give you – that isn’t ‘wind’ or pains. That is a genuine, real smile. Be prepared – your heart will melt.

4. When you life them up out of their moses basket/car seat/bouncer and their wee bum sticks out, their arms are all curled up, their wee heads are a little floppy and they are still all squished up….enjoy those days, they definitely don’t last long. Enjoy having that tiny wee head, fitting in just perfectly under your chin. Look forward to those evenings when you’ll lie on the sofa with your tiny bundle lying on your chest sleeping.

5. When they roll over for the first time and you genuinely think your child is a genius!!!!

6. Those moments in the middle of the night, when the house is so, so quiet and it’s just and your little one having a cuddle during a feed – those moments can be beautiful. (I know they can be exhausting, but there will be at least once when you will take a big deep breath, cuddle them in tight and smile).

7. When they first eat from a spoon and enjoy finger foods – suddenly things just got a little easier when you head to a coffee shop or restaurant – finger foods are great for keeping them entertained!

8. When they wake up in the morning and are absolutely over the moon to see you – their arms and legs will flap uncontrollably, they will squeal and laugh with excitement and you will feel amazing! It’s like you haven’t seen each other for weeks!!!

9. Look forward to each and every milestone that they reach – sitting up on their own, clapping their hands, waving bye bye, crawling, pulling themselves up, ‘cruising’, climbing. walking, saying da-da, ma-ma ….there are so many. And each time, you will swell with pride, tell everyone you know, take pictures, clap and cheer like they have just won an Oscar – treasure those moments.

10. That moment when it hits you. YOU.ARE.A.MUMMY. Someone’s MUMMY. There is NO greater job, Be excited.

So mum to be / new mum. Congratulations on your wonderful news. You are going to love it. Yes it’s going to be hard, BUT it is going to be even more wonderful with so many moments of complete joy. I wish you every blessing.

26 thoughts on “My top 10 things to look forward to in the first 12 months of being a mum!

  1. This is beautiful. It’s true that we have a tendency to get wrapped up in the harder parts of motherhood and forget all the great bits. My son is turning 1 in a little over a week and I remember every single one of these moments. Every single one brought up an immediate image to mind.

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  2. Karen, these words are amazing. As I read this it brought a tear to my eye. I am excited about becoming a mummy in February 🙂 Yes I am nervous and afraid if I will be able to do a good job but I know with God’s help, family and friends support Alan and I will become good parents. Thank you so much for these words of advice and a look forward to those special moments with my little one xo

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  3. my favourite time is in the morning when I haven’t seen them all night and I am excited to see and cuddle them in the morning 🙂 very well said I have to admit I am one of those who says all those things, think I need to not to do 😦

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  4. I love this post. I am pregnant with my second people have so many dumb, not helpful things to say. I’m excited. I remember all those sweet baby moments with my first and can’t wait to experience them with my second. Thank you for the blessings:)

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  5. I have goosebumps just reading that. What a fantastic post. I think it’s my favorite this week for sure. So true and you wrote it beautifully. I almost cried. Thank you ever so much for linking this up to Share WIth Me. Its a fantastic post, you have a lovely blog here. Off to have a peak around. Thanks again for the blog linky support. You couldn’t be more right. I am going to copy and the advice to pass on is indeed GET EXCITED!!! Thank you for pointing that out I often give cliches and now I am cringing at myself. lol #sharewithme

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      1. I don’t know, kinda of like I was exposing my blog to the big bad world or something! At the moment I haven’t really joined in with Linkys or anything as I’m scared people will wonder why on earth does she blog – her posts are wick!!

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      2. Hahaha oh hunny don’t feel like that. I am not the big bad world I only just started blogging. I am a newbie and half the time I think I should delete it all because people will think I am talking nonsense. I still have that panic when I push publish will this be stupid, will no one comment. I hate looking at my stats as it makes me feel crap. Its all a learning process. You are doing great. Linkys will drive a lot more traffic to your blog and that’s what you want right? I think we all feel this way when we first start out. I have only been doing this a few months and am up for two MAD Blog awards for Best Baby Blog & Best New Blog, (its’ the last night to vote hahaha if you haven’t) But I couldn’t believe it. And I still think why did I get there I am only silly old me. The night before they announced the finalists I almost quit. So glad I didn’t. keep up the good work. honestly.

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  6. Love this post! I not only heard all those things when i was pregnant with Joni (now 6 months, 2nd baby) but thought them too. I worried so much that i wouldn’t cope etc. But that moment when she was plonked on my chest in hospital was indescribable. The rush of love was overwhelming! And the tinyness of her i miss already! It actually made me feel sad to read that! But then (rollercoaster of emotions in this post!) completely happy thinking about how she is so excited to see me every morning with her waving arms! I am loving every second and you have captured those moments perfectly here, thank you! #sharewithme

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