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Can someone please send me some Galaxy and coffee?

So, I think I’ve decided that my late 20’s / early 30’s has been my toughest time yet. Now, don’t get me wrong, I’m not all annoyed at being in the “30’s club” or anything like that. I’m not feeling old or even that I’m getting old, I still kinda feel 19 in a strange way. It’s more – life right now is a bit tough. Rough. Stressful, ,maybe? Exhausting? I’m not really sure what word to use. But I just feel like life, in general is perhaps the hardest it has ever been. Mentally, I think, most of all. I guess for me, personally, a LOT has happened in the last 5 years – I’ve spent 2 months in Uganda, got engaged, then married (14 weeks later!!), moved house 4 times, got a promotion at work, resigned from work and had 3 babies!!! That’s a lot, right?!

Don’t get me wrong I LOVE my life. I wouldn’t have it any other way. I love the hubster with all my heart. I adore my kiddies. But things are hard. I feel guilty / exhausted /overwhelmed/ confused/ silly / anxious/ stressed at some point every day. There are days I think to myself, I don’t know how to be a mummy, how to be a wife, how to be a friend, a daughter, a sister, a neighbour, a Christian. I don’t know how to balance all that. I don’t know what a mummy of 3 kids is meant to be able to do –  should I be able to do the weekly shop, with them in tow? Should I be able to make it out to church every Sunday? Should I be able to have all the ironing, washing done? Should my house be lovely and clean and tidy all the time? Should I be able to cook delicious, homemade dinners every night? Should we able to go to a restaurant and all be able to enjoy it with no meltdowns? Should my kids be at ballet / football / dance / gymnastics? Should we be going on a family day trip every week and again all enjoying it – smile everyone!! Where are these pressures coming from? Am I placing them on myself? Does anyone else feel the same?

Things in your 30’s just seem hard. Careers are just getting established. Money, well, what even is that?! It seems to be in short supply. Health – our bodies just don’t seem to be the same anymore, we’re starting to get diagnosed with ‘certain’ conditions. Our kids health – sometimes it feels like you just roll from one illness to the next with young kids. Friendships change. Lifestyle changes. YOU have to be the responsible one now. Yet, I’m not sure at 32, I really know how to manage/balance all these ‘new’ things. A lot of changes happen in your late 20’s / 30’s….married life, getting a mortgage, having kids, climbing the career ladder, some people though do feel like they are ‘in their prime’…….

This post may be a little like therapy for me and all you guys are the lucky ones who get to listen 😉 Sorry about that. But I just need to be honest. I kinda blame Facebook / Pinterest / Instagram for some of it. I do believe that’s where some of the pressures come from. I tell myself, CATCH. A. GRIP. You are 32, who cares if the rest of the world live in fabulous houses with perfect kids and they craft and bake and wear designer brands, with perfectly groomed hair and freshly applied make up all day?! AND they do it all with a smile on their face, while kissing and cuddling and basically skipping their way through life!

Life is just not picture perfect all the time. People don’t post pictures of real life – no one wants to share that.

So, if you’re sitting somewhere reading this, feeling a little overwhelmed / stressed / guilty or just utterly exhausted – I hear ya. I feel like that too.

I can’t wait ’til I’m 40. A LOT of folk have told me they’re a great decade 😉 Here’s hoping anyway!

 

P.S. I feel like I need to add a tag line – please no one panic  – I am doing ok. I genuinely LOVE my life. Just sometimes, it’s a little tough being 32 xxx

29 thoughts on “Can someone please send me some Galaxy and coffee?

  1. Instead of those makeup free selfish we should post real house selfish photos. I work full time and have a husband, 2 girls and 2 cats. My house is a MESS but you know what… I don’t care. Don’t get me wrong, I’d love to have a tidy house but I become a woman possessed when I get the vacuum out and I don’t want my girls to think cleaning makes Mum angry so I try not to do it when they’re about. I’ve come to this conclusion: my house can be tidy when my children are older.

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  2. Oh Karen, I know just how you feel at times pet. In my experience though(I’m so wise cos’ I’m 35 you see 😉 ) those people that seem to be doing it all? Those ones? They’re not really. Under the surface, something is being missed. It’s just that you don’t see that part, much in the same way that we don’t notice dust in other people’s houses, or see the teatime meltdowns that their kids have. We are all just human, and every one of us has our insecurities. And can I just say chicken, to me anyways, you absolutely DO seem to do it all perfectly. But the fact that you shared this makes me respect and love you all the more 🙂 xx

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  3. Someone once told me, “you’re good enough”. So I have remind myself of that many times. We all have moments of wonder, thinking that the grass is greener elsewhere. Do I really and truly believe that? Deep down no but at that time that’s all I can see. So I am a good enough mother, a good enough wife, a good enough homemaker (you catch my drift). PS. I’m 43. The forties, for me, have been better (I’m purposely not saying easier) than my thirties! Embrace what you’ve got and live for the moment….

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  4. yeah welcome to my world….. 32, 4 bundles of joy under 7, living in a country with no family, but hey apparantly (according to my 87yr old granny) this is the BEST time of our lives…… rearing r children!!!!! some days i look at my messy floor after ruby has fired her dinner on it, then glance at the pile of ironing, my hair thAt needs washed and a face that could do with a bit of ‘slap’ on it, and think whatever happened to me having ‘a life’ !!!! did we give that right up when we decided to be a mummy….. but today lets breathe a long breath in and be thankful, for being chosen for the most important task……. and have a nice warm bath wiv a cuppa made by ur hubby, tomorrow wil bring more joy and when we R 40 will we be saying i wish my babies were babies again…… probably!!!!! (love your posts!)x

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    1. Thanks Heather – tonight I literally have hair that is stuck to my head, 2 baskets of ironing sitting beside me BUT I’ve also just had lots and lots of snuggles and kissed on the couch with my babies and ya know I wouldn’t want it any other way 🙂 I already miss the newborn stage so no doubt I will miss these toddler years when they’re gone too!

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      1. We literally gave up on ironing years ago. I’m not just saying that, the last time me or my wife did ironing was probably before Christmas (I had to iron a shirt for a night out), we hanger dry a lot of our clothes over radiators (and pick clothes that won’t look crushed after doing this). Instead we take time to make home-made dinners and sit watching a movie with the kids (way more fun 😛 ). Think it’s priorities, we should all just pick the things we think are important/ we like doing. Nothing wrong with ironing, it’s just not for us 😛

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  5. Glad I am not the only one who feels that way, I find myself looking forward to kiddies going to bed, is that bad?? Or all three being out at school 🙂 your right, I look at people on Facebook and get jealous, try not to but I do, want to delete it but canny bring myself to do it. I do look forward to my 40s more so cos hopefully my kiddies can dress themselves, walk themselves and clean their own behinds, which is bad cos I know I will miss this stage 🙂

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    1. I think we will all look back and miss these days terribly, I already miss the little newborn stage! I have been thinking about deleting Facebook too – but then there are some positives to it as well…grrrrr….
      I also look forward to bedtimes, I think that’s ok 😉

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  6. Oh Karen where to start! First I totally endorse the post above. I think all your followers will respect and love you more for sharing that like the rest of us you are human and sometimes it all gets a little bit too much. No matter how much we love our life, we all at some point feel overwhelmed. This is why it’s so important to take time to nurture yourself. This isn’t a luxury but essential maintenance! How else can we nurture the relationships with our partners and children if we don’t take time to look after ourselves. It’s a bit like having a shiny red Ferrari parked at the door, it may look gorgeous but without petrol it’s going nowhere. So to all you hardworking, sleep deprived, anxious mummies just keep doing what you do because you are actually amazing, inspiring and above all fabulous role-models to your children and investing in their future. By the way my 40’s were my favourite decade 😉 unfortunately my body is heading down hill in my 50’s 😥 Enjoy these years they will pass very quickly, however on the upside you may then be blessed with grandchildren as your parents are, and you can have all of the pleasure without the pain!!

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    1. Oh Dorothy how wonderful are your words! I’d like to think of myself as a Ferrari 😉 With or without the petrol!! Ha ha! It’s funny my minister, just the night before last was telling me about the importance of nurturing both myself and also my relationships….I think it must be a wee message from God as now you are saying the same thing. Thank you so much for your comment. I am going to write it in my journal x

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  7. I get this post completely. While I am the happiest I have ever been, and I am settling into my 30’s well (after 3 weeks haha!) I think being a Mum has changed me for the better and for the worse. I am constantly anxious about things now, and stressed too. But then at the same time it has made me realise that life is far too short and we should appreciate the smallest things the most. Well done on writing this post all down. x

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    1. That’s just it – I too am the happiest I have ever been – I have everything that I have ever wanted. But like you say, I have a few things too that I don’t want like anxiety and stress! I feel better getting it out there and sharing and knowing that I am not alone x

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  8. I don’t believe there is anyone out there who genuinely has it all sussed-not really. Circumstances in my life recently have meant that my entire life-mentality came under some serious evaluation. Having spent a lot of time asking God to show me His plan, because clearly my lack of total contentment was down to my misunderstanding Him, i had a revelation, thanks to a great sermon one Sunday morning-I was praying all wrong. It’s not about expecting God to change my circumstances. Rather, I have learned to pray that when the circumstances can’t change, He will change me. He has quite a task, believe me, but, though everyday isnt necessarily a positive, perfect one, I’m learning to take one at a time and trust Him. Think your post is refreshingly real. Thanks for sharing x

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  9. Such an honest posting! I can completely relate. When we were 18, 19, 20 and in college all we wanted to do was graduate, get a job, get a house and start a family. Now many of us are here and it is way harder than it was 10 years ago! I have 3 under 6, work full time and have my kids signed up in a bunch of activities because I feel that is what we are supposed to do but it’s overwhelming. 8:30pm in the best time in my house!

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  10. A lot of days I am overwhelmed with things as well and this doesnt mean that I dont love living. But sometimes it just happen. Dark clouds follows us, me. I would usually go out and take photos if I feel like im going to have a nervous breakdown. Your outlet is blogging and you can express yourself well can i just say. Continue writing blogs and vent out. It is a great help to calm oneself. I love your honesty here. #oprdinarymoments

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